Virgo Women:

Virgo is an earth sign and for that reason is concerned with bringing things to completion and with practical matters. The ability to analyze and compare are highly developed in Virgo. The Virgo woman has a discriminative intellect that enables her to analyze herself and discover her true sense of security. She may tend to see all the little flaws and faults in the women around her, but she is also her own hardest critic. In fact, she can be a perfectionist about herself, driving herself too hard. Virgo can be overly conscientious and guilt-ridden to the point where it actually takes a toll of her health.

The Virgo woman has a strong desire to be of service and to do something worthwhile with her life. Even though she does not approach others with great emotional affection, she has a strong need to help people in trouble. This tendency often directs her to helping professions such as counseling or medicine. At the same time, she often has a very well developed business ability and usually keeps her financial affairs in good order. When the Virgo woman does not succeed in her work it is often the result of a gnawing sense of worthlessness. There is no objective basis for this feeling; it simply stems from her overly perfectionist nature.

In a love relationship, the Virgo woman may carry the need to be of service in the world into wanting to help her partner, often at her own expense. The Virgo woman often puts her needs behind those of her partner, and the problem that can arise is that the Virgo woman may begin to resent this inequality, even though she herself set it up. Another tendency is for this woman to be very critical of her partner and to expect a lot from her. She may continually be measuring her partner against some idea. Obviously, after a while, the other woman will begin to resent this criticism. When the Virgo woman can see through this judgmental tendency, she can turn her need to be of service toward being a concerned, giving and openly loving partner.

Virgo Loving Scorpio

The Virgo and Scorpio connection can work out very well if certain illusions are overcome. Virgo is an earth sign and concerned with what is dependable, reliable, and centered; Scorpio, a water sign, works principally through powerful intrinsic emotions. Earth and water support and nourish each other and for this reason these two women can assist each other in their paths to personal fulfillment. Each women wants to be able to completely trust and rely on the other; strength of character and integrity are important and necessary qualities to them both.

They have so much to offer each other. Both can be critical, sometimes in ways that are destructive. The Virgo woman expects and needs order, and when the Scorpio woman isn't behaving in an orderly way, the Virgo woman will say so. She does this not out of anger but in the interest of being truthful. The Scorpio is intensely direct and emotional about everything in life, and will react with deeply emotional resentment to the Virgo's criticism, especially if she believes the criticisms are unfounded. The Scorpio woman, if angered, can tear down her Virgo partner in devastating ways. She must be careful of angry verbal exchanges, as she is capable of pulling out past sensitivities that have left very deep scars. The Virgo can heal, but will have a hard time forgetting. In spite of this, these women will both value honesty and sincerety. The Virgo can gain a deeper inner reflection of her emotional depths, and the Scorpio can gain a clearer, more detached understanding of her feelings.

Sexually, these two will rejoice in the patient and sharing qualities of their intimacy. They each have finally found a caring that grows deeper with time.

Virgo Loving Libra

The Virgo/Libra combination is an interesting match, even though the two women are very different. Virgo is an earth sign concerned with the open exchange of ideas and balance. The Virgo woman approaches life from the point of view of detail and perfection; the Libra woman is more interested in the balance of parts within a whole and she becomes impatient with the Virgo's concern with detail.

The main reason why these two women disagree is around their approaches to other people's needs. The Virgo woman is concerned about being of service in a structured environment and a loyal way. The Libra woman is concerned about the harmony and ease among women, and wants to please others, and not necessarily to do what is "right" or expected. To the Virgo woman the Libra may appear to compromise too much in order to please, and Virgo may feel she can't always completely trust the Libran's motives. To the Libra woman, her Virgo partner may seem overly obsessed with doing the right thing, without concern for creating a harmonious flow.

There are differences, but the similarities are especially plentiful. Both women are extremely concerned about the comfort of others and are willing to go to any length to take another's needs into consideration. These women will be very concerned about the well-being of others. The Virgo woman can learn to be more tolerant and open to others through her Libra partner, and the Libra woman can learn more attention to specifics and to be more honest and direct.

Sexually, these two may need to trust each other's needs more before they can feel open to sharing their own personalities. The Virgo woman must learn not to mistake Libra's approach and to stay warm and openly loving.

Virgo Loving Aquarius

The Virgo and Aquarius combination brings together two women who are very different, and this combination is very rare. Virgo, an earth sign, is mainly concerned with grounding and practical issues, and Aquarius, an air sign, needs freedom to approach life from a detached and objective standpoint. The Aquarius woman dislikes being bound by routine relationship "together" and "not together" issues, and the Virgo woman will only feel comfortable when she knows where and how she stands in the relationship.

Although they are very different from each other, both approach life from a detached and mental point of view. The Virgo woman loves to understand and compare relationships and needs to have a well-organized life. The Aquarian woman, in her own way, can be very clear and objective when it comes to relating. These two women will respect each other's strong intellectual abilities and will profit from talking about experiences and issues that affect their relationship, from past encounters to their different ways of relating.

If these two can challenge these differences, especially in the area of emotional and spiritual pursuits, each will find the other a support. Intimacy between these two women is also a challenge, as the Virgo woman is discriminating in her approach to closeness, and the Aquarian is open and innovative. They can find a meeting point if the Virgo can learn to relax.

Virgo Loving Cancer

The Cancer/Virgo combination can be a very productive one. Watery Cancer gives emotional nourishment to her partner, and earthy Virgo gives her partner solid support and grounding. Both women in different ways are concerned with the process of caring and nurturing. Cancer cares for others with emotional tenderness and empathy. Virgo caring is given with conscientious regard for being of service and stems from her desire to be useful. Together these two women will establish a relationship based on care nad consideration for each other's needs.

Each of these women will be supersensitive to the needs of the other. At times, these two can be almost too solicitous of each other and may tend to suppress valid anger when this arises. Each woman is acutely tuned in to the other, sometimes to the point that it may be a problem. The Virgo may have a tendency to be picky in little things; the Cancer will note the slightest criticism and feel rejected. The Virgo woman is also acutely aware of the Cancer's emotional demands, but if she finds them too demanding she may not express resentment because of guilt. Therefore, a lot may be going on beneath the surface between these two that may not always be healthy.

Except for these difficulties, however, things usually go well with these two women. The Cancer woman will appreciate the practical focus her Virgo partner gives her, and the Virgo woman will enjoy the tenderness and affection that the Cancer woman gives her, expecially in the home. They would also make excellent business partners. Virgo is shrewd and practical, and Cancer has an instinctive sense of what the public wants. Together, these two would give conscientious attention to any task they undertook. Sexually, these two women should be very compatible, although the Virgo woman will need to overcome some reserve in order to respond to her partner's emotional needs.
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Virgo Loving Virgo

This is a very, very smooth combination. Virgo is an earth sign, concerned with stability, grounding, and practical focus issues in a relationship. These two women will have much in common and will tend to respect each other's judgments and levelheadedness. Virgo is connected with consideration, conscience, and service. These two women will be very concerned about each other's needs and comfort. Each will bend over backwards to help the other, and both are dependable and can count on each other.

These two women understand and respect each other, but sometimes problems do arise. Both women are very critical of others and critical of themselves,, and they are acutely aware of the slightest flaw. For the reason they can be overly apologetic for their own mistakes and overly critical of the mistakes of others. Each can become increasingly irritbale with behaviour the other exhibits, but they may hesitate to be openly critical and instead will take out their resentment in subtler ways. These two may need to learn how to "fight" more out in the open. If they don't, they can actually become physically strained. This physical depression can lead to chronic ailments which are not conducive to positive relations and may eventually undermine the relationship.

In spite of these difficulties, these two women have so much common ground they will be motivated to overcome this possible imbalance. There is a genuine concern that exists in this relationship, and they will want to get to the root of any discord between them, no matter how far in the past it may take them. On the practical level, they will have similar tastes, and they each like a well-organized, uncluttered, and clean environment. Verbal exchanges will reach a unique level because these two have very sharp minds. As long as they can let go of the past and forgive themselves for its negative effects, they should always be able to work out their differences.

Sexually, these two women are very compatible, and approach sex considerately and with much visual appreciation.

Virgo Loving Capricorn

The Virgo/Capricorn connection can be an ideally harmonious one. These two women are earth signs and share a common concern with stability and solid achievement. Each will appreciate the dependability and sense of responsibility of the other. Hard work and caring consideration of each other are priorities for both of them. They know how to hang in there insistently when the relationship appears difficult. They will be willing to generously give love and support when needed during the hard times.

When difficulties arise in this relationship they are generally minor. Each has a tendency to have difficulty expressing her feelings, which can cause them to withdraw out of fear. Verbal skills need to be developed in a warm and accepting environment. The Virgo woman tends to be restless and indecisive at times, and the Capricorn woman approaches life directly and can be very decisive. The Virgo woman may feel the Capricorn partner is pushing her into action and the Capricorn woman may become impatient with her Virgo partner's tendency to analyze and try to understand everything before she acts.

They can overcome these differences, and if they do they have a strong likelihood of success. They are both intense and serious and conscientious about changing past mistakes and not repeating negative behaviour patterns in the future. The Virgo woman can help her Capricorn partner to analyze the seeds of her problems, and the Capricorn can help the Virgo learn dynamic self-reflection.

In intimacy, there is a security and natural trust, and their approaches to closeness are gentle and very consistent.

Virgo Loving Leo

The Leo/Virgo combination brings together two such different people that they will have to stretch themselves considerably to find compatibility. Leo, a fire sign, tends to enter into projects compulsively and overenthusiastically, because to a Leo, creativity is the important element, not the finished product. Virgo, and earth sign, is concerned with perfecting whatever she undertakes and with bringing things to completion. Virgo wants a clear, practical focus in life, and efficiency and usefulness are very important to her.

These two women have very different goals. The Leo woman can be exasperated with the Virgo's concern with perfection and detail, as the Leo is concerned with expressing strong feelings in a creative way. The exact method of expression and the final results are not the most important things, so the Leo woman will sometimes find her Virgo partner overly finicky and picky. The Virgo woman is often alarmed at the overly exuberant expression of energy from the Leo, as to the Virgo, the Leo's way of doing things seems careless and too intense. She feels her Leo partner should be more cautious and calculating in her approach to life and projects, so she gives what she regards as constructive criticism, something the Leo woman will resent and reject. Again, the Leo hates to be criticised and is especially resistant to the way her Virgo partner focuses on the flaws and the details. To the Leo, the most important thing is the enjoyment of expression for it's own sake. You might say the Leo is the eternal optimist, and the Virgo is the practical realist.

In spite of these differences, these two women can work well together if they are willing to compromise and cooperate. The Leo woman can learn to discipline her creative energy and pay more attention to details with the influence of her Virgo partner, and the Virgo woman can learn to lighten up and let her creative energies flow. She can also learn to play and enjoy herself without expecting to accomplish anything. Both women like to be in control of situations, but the Virgo woman is more concerned with other people's feelings and needs. She can help teach her Leo partner to be more considerate and aware of how to make other people more comfortable.

Sexually, these two women may have to put in some effort to be harmonious. The Leo woman wants to express strong, passionate emotion, but the Virgo woman has a cooler, more detached approach to loving. The Virgo woman is very concerned about the well-being of her partner, though, and will make an effort to try to make their relationship work. The Leo is romantic and patient with her lover, and will win over any resistance with charm, gifts, and generosity.

Virgo Loving Sagittarius

The Virgo/Sagittarius combination can be constructive, although these two women are physically and emotionally very different. The Virgo is an earth sign whose primary concern is practicality and perfecting relationship skills; the Sagittarius is a fire sign, whose main concern is expressing herself independently. These two women relate very differently: the Virgo woman wants stability, and the Sagittarian wants freedom and stimulation now. The Virgo woman often feels her Sagittarian partner is flightly and inconsistent, and the Sagittarian feels her Virgo partner is overly concerned with the expectations of order and the details of relating.

Even though they approach life at different rates, they can help each other. Both women have very active mental agendas and need to fill them up. The Virgo focuses her agenda on daily living issues and survival skills; the orientation of the Sagittarian includes a broader view of today and next week and next year. The Virgo woman wants to take care of today's issues and is fascinated by all the options. The Sagittarian woman sees life in terms of philosophical and emotional gains. These two approaches can supplement each other and these two women can think better together than either does alone.

When these two women are on the same wave-length, the Virgo can help her Sagittarian partner bring her expansive and long-range ideas down to earth and the Sagittarian can help the Virgo to broaden her perspective beyond right now. These two women will enjoy sharing perceptions and will be amazed at how productively they work mentally and emotionally together.

They will have to put effort into their sexual relationship. Intimacy based on long-term goals, expected by the Virgo, may not be appreciated by the Sagittarian.

Virgo Loving Pisces

The Virgo/Pisces combination can mean two women meeting each other's true expectations in the relationship arena. But there are difficulties: Virgo and Pisces are complementary opposites in the zodiac and can therefore conflict or complement each other. Earthy Virgo is concerned with being grounded and having a very practical understanding of her life's path; watery Pisces approaches life through deeply-felt emotions and empathy with others. These two women can support and nourish each other, but they each have a strong need to sacrifice themselves in a relationship. The Virgo woman sacrifices herself through her conscientiousness about self-perfection, and the Pisces woman sacrifices herself by surrendering her soul out of compassion for her partner. Each woman must work at not losing herself while in this relationship. These two women are anxious to be supportive of each other, but misunderstandings do and will arise because each approaches and gives support in different ways. The Virgo woman both gives and receives support from the point of view of responsibility and expectancy; the Pisces woman both gives and receives support out of her feelings of empathy for her partner. She may find it hard to deal with her Virgo partner's explicit demands and expectations. To the Virgo the Pisces is a sympathetic partner, but she may seem ruled by her feelings at that moment and can appear undependable. The Virgo wants to know when and under what circumstances she will be supported, and the Pisces really never knows the conditions of her love.

The Virgo and Pisces women are strongly motivated to work toward union because they are innately concerned with helping and loving each other. At best, their relationship will be marked by deep empathy and consideration. Sexually, they will be very grateful, because there is an empathy towards each other's needs, with careful and intuitive timing on each one's part. This is a loving combination

Virgo Loving Gemini

The Gemini/Virgo combination usually works out well in spite of significant differences between the two women. Gemini, an air sign, loves to float off into the world of ideas. Virgo, an earth sign, also has a keen intellect, but applies it in a more grounded way. Gemini loves to gather interesting new ideas from far and wide; Virgo likes to refine and analyze different ideas and select those that will be most useful. Gemini is playful and carefree, going off in all directions at once if possible. Virgo is serious, conscientious, and self-disciplined. How, then, is it possible for these two women to enjoy a harmonious relationship, as they often do?

The reason these two women often do so well together is because each one supplies something the other lacks. Both women are sensitive and have the ability to cooly appraise situations with a sharp eye for details. But the Gemini woman expands her Virgo partner's focus to take in new and surprising vistas. And the Virgo woman helps her Gemini partner to get her feet on the ground and be more discriminating about which ideas she will take up. The Virgo woman can show her Gemini partner ways of being more disciplined. Together these women can communicate with each other remarkably well. They love to talk about situations, perceptions, and inner feelings together. Each woman feels that the other brings a constructive view on what she is experiencing. On a day-to-day basis, these women learn a lot from each other.

Problems between these two will arise, of course. The Gemini woman may find the Virgo's fixation on duty and perfection irksome at times. And the Virgo woman will look askance at the Gemini woman's nonchalance in the face of serious responsibilities of life. But even with these pronounced differences in style, these two women have much to offer each other once they work through these difficulties. Sexually, these two women can be very compatible, as they both approach love from a mental point of view, and both need to talk about and analyze their feelings.

Virgo Loving Taurus

The Taurus/Virgo combination usually works harmoniously. Both Taurus and Virgo are earth signs, and share a concern with being grounded, practical, and with solid, tried and true values. Both women appreciate care, efficiency, and resourcefulness. The ideas of dependability and consistent support are dominant ones in this relationship. They know they can count on one another, and they both appreciate this. Each also knows that the other woman will carry her own weight, and not lean unduly on her partner. Each will feel comfortable about the way her partner manages her affairs, both practical and emotional. These two could make great business partners. There should be relatively few arguments about how the other is spending money or managing the household. Both these women are clean and well-organized in the home they share.

This relationship has many strong, durable qualities. What it may lack is the spark of passion, although this may be replaced by sensitivity to one another's needs and mutual consideration. The Virgo woman will appreciate her Taurus partner's soothing warmth and tenderness, especially as the Virgo is so often mercilessly self-critical. The Taurus woman will appreciate her Virgo partner's conscientious regard for her well-being, and her readiness to sacrifice her own convenience to help her lover.

When a problem arises in this relationship, it usually stems from the differences between the two signs. Taurus is slow, steady, patient and works best by gradually absorbing new ideas. The Taurus woman works through her intuition and "gut level" feelings rather than by intellectual speculation and analysis. The Virgo woman tends to analyze, compare ideas, and figure things out with her very keen intellect. Her mind is a tool with which she understands herself the world -- and her loved ones. The Taurus may at times become exasperated with her Virgo partner's tendency to analyze everything rather than "feeling things out", and the Virgo woman may become impatient with how long it takes her Taurus partner to come to a conclusion that the Virgo may have reached long ago. The Virgo woman needs to realize that if the Taurus thinks things through more slowly, the currents of her mind run all the deeper. The Taurus woman needs to stretch herself to appreciate the clarity and precision of her Virgo partner's thought processes, and here, as in other areas of their relationship, these two can complement each other. Another possible problem is that the Virgo can be very critical and her Taurus partner hates critcism, while the Taurean stubbornness can be difficult for the more flexible Virgo to adjust to. But these problems should not be overwhelming, considering the common ground these two women share. Sexually, this couple should be fairly compatible, except for the fact that the Taurus woman tends to be much more sensual than her Virgo partner.

Virgo Loving Aries

The Aries/Virgo combination brings together two very different people. The alchemy of their temperment may work very well, or the two may continually be at odds with each other. Fiery Aries plunges into things in a headlong fashion; cautious Virgo wants to think about every detail before she acts. The Virgo woman can be very decisive and efficient once she has analyzed all the facts. But in the meantime, her Aries partner may be at her wit's end with impatience. Virgo approaches life in a cool, detached way, while Aries is hot and passionate.

The question is, can these two women develop a harmonious relationship? The answer is, cautiously, yes, if certain adjustments are made. But first, let's examine more closely how these women tend to interact with each other. The Virgo woman is a stickler for doing things perfectly. Her Aries partner means well, but she can be rather slap-dash in her approach to details. If the Virgo woman can learn to appreciate the creative flair that her Aries partner can add to anything they do together, these two can work very constructively. At the same time, if the Aries woman can grow to understand the need for systematic, thorough-going effort in any task, she will find that her creative inspirations can actually be used for practical applications. Another issue is the Virgo woman's tendency to be critical of her Aries partner. Aries hates criticism, all the more so if she disagrees with the perfectionistic standard that the Virgo may be using to judge her. The Virgo woman's intention is to help the Aries, but her partner will never understand that. If the Virgo woman can learn to exercise more tact and tone down her criticism, she will find she has much more influence on her Aries partner. Aries wants to please those she loves, but criticism must be offered in the right way.

Both women have keen minds and the ability to eliminate in-essentials and get to the heart of an issue. Each should admire this ability in the other. Both women feel most comfortable with simplicity and having an uncluttered environment. This common trait should go far in making them more comfortable. Sexually, there is much to work through since Virgo is cautious and reserved, and Aries is so passionate.