The Cancer woman is ruled by the moon. She is a water element, and emotionality and sensitivity govern her. Major changes in her life take place based on her feelings.

Her emotional refuge is her home. She has a tendency to take care of people she cares about like a mother. She also tends to crave a lot of emotional nurturing in relationships. The Cancer woman needs emotional security and often has trouble letting go of old relationships. She must learn to let go of the past. This extends to the physical objects she becomes attached to as well, as she finds it difficult to get rid of old possessions.

When a Cancer woman is alone she must learn to take care of herself first and other people second. She may retreat to her home away from harsh reality for awhile. Intuitively she spends long periods resting because a Cancer woman has a tendency to overextend herself both emotionally and physically. When she withdraws, it is because she feels ungrounded and instinctively returns to the womb. She nurtures herself with food and meditation. When she is alone she can put her feelings into perspective. This retreat is a regenerative process for her.

When a Cancerian woman loves she can become deeply emotionally attached to her partner. For that reason, some Cancerian women play a "push-pull" game that is very confusing to their partners. The reason is that the Cancer woman is so afraid of her emotional vulnerability and of being rejected that she tries to reject the person she loves. If the partner starts to withdraw, the Cancerian feels insecure and starts to "pull" at her again.

When the Cancer woman sees the source of her own fears, she may be able to give a deep, warm, and abiding affection without fear of being rejected.

Cancer Loving Scorpio

The Cancer/Scorpio combination can work very harmoniously. Both Cancer and Scorpio are water signs, concerned with the expression of deep emotion. Cancer is concerned with emotional nurturing and being nurtured. Scorpio embraces life with a passionate and total intensity, going through powerful transformative experiences. These two women will feel a strong emotional bond. The Cancer woman will give her Scorpio partner a complete committment as she gives her all to everything she involves herself with.

Each woman is usually able to feel what the other experiences, but at times they will have trouble understanding each other. The Cancer woman approaches life with a much softer touch than the Scorpio. Cancer is highly sensitive but has a capacity to both give and take a lot of pain. Scorpio pursues whatever she feels is right with a passionate and relentless determination, and if necessary she will not shrink from causing another pain in the process. The super-sensitive Cancer will sometimes be wounded by her Scorpio partner's barbed words, as the Scorpio woman will say some things very bluntly in the cause of truth.

The Scorpio woman enjoys her Cancer partner's tenderness and sentimentality, but she sometimes becomes impatient with the Cancer's emotional neediness. Scorpio is very emotional, yet she is also a very strong, resourceful individual. She will resist being overly solicitous of the Cancer woman's feelings. The Scorpio woman will need to stretch herself to empathize with her Cancer partner's need for emotional security and the Cancer woman will need to learn not to lean so much on her Scorpio partner for emotional support. If she can learn this she will find that she will always have all the support she really needs.

The emotional bond between these two women is so strong that it can enable them to overcome these difficulties. The Cancer woman will learn to be stronger and more independent, and the Scorpio woman will learn to soften her tendency to be harsh and abrupt with other people, because of her relationship with her Cancer partner. Sexually, these two women should be very compatible because both are deeply emotional and passionate in their approach to love.

Cancer Loving Libra

The Cancer/Libra combination can be a harmonious one, but there may be difficulties because both women are so sensitive in different ways. Watery Cancer is dominated by her emotions, while airy Libra needs to take a completely objective standpoint to be comfortable. Both women are acutely aware of other people and their needs. Both are also warm and gentle in their manner, and should be able on that account to feel very comfortable with each other. Cancer wants to soothe and care for others with emotional empathy; Libra wants to create harmony by clear and open discussion of differences and by making reasonable compromises.

A great deal of time these two women get along beautifully, especially given the fact that each is so concerned about the other's comfort. The problem that can arise is that they are both almost too concerned. Both these women are very finely strung, but the string is very taut. Each is aware of the slightest imbalance and discord affects them almost physically. The Cancer woman has a hard time understanding the Libran's need to reach verbal agreement, as if that solved the problem; the Libran hates intense emotional displays and will do anything to avoid them. The Cancer sense the Libra is uncomfortable with her strong emotions, and therefore tries to inhibit them. In short, the two can be walking on eggs around each other. Both are kind, gentle women, and hate discord, and yet they can slowly drive each other crazy.

That is one side of the picture. Obviously, there is still a lot of ground for agreement between these two women, and this can help them overcome their problems. Since they both need love and affection so much they will be highly motivated to find harmony with each other. The Cancer woman can learn to appreciate the objective mental perspective her Libra partner can offer her often confused emotional feelings, and the Libra can learn to broaden her understanding of life to a deeper emotional level through her Cancer partner. Each woman has much to offer the other. Sexually, these two women can be very compatible as each is very concerned with pleasing her partner, and both are warmly responsive in love.

Cancer Loving Aquarius

The Cancer/Aquarius combination will require a lot of patience, tolerance, and acceptance from both parties. Cancer, a water sign, approaches life entirely from an emotional point of view, while Aquarius, an air sign, approaches life from a cool, objective mental standpoint. Cancer reacts to people and situations through gut-level feelings, and Aquarius, although capable of deep emotion, strives to separate herself as completely as possible from emotionality.

Obviously, these two women do things very differently. The Cancer woman will be frustrated at times in expressing her feelings with her Aquarian partner. She will feel that certain things that are very important are hard to express in abstract intellectual terms. The Aquarian woman tends to want to be completely divorced from personal, emotional needs and will find the Cancer woman's desire for emotional reassurance exasperating at times. To the Aquarian woman, mental rapport is the most important connection, and she can feel uncomfortable with a lot of emotional intimacy. The Aquarian tends to be independent and self-reliant and may feel smothered by the Cancer's tendency to nurture. The Cancer woman often finds her Aquarian partner cool and aloof, and the more the Cancer woman reaches out to her Aquarian partner, the more the Aquarian woman withdraws onto a high, detached plateau.

These two women will have to work hard to overcome these differences. The Cancer woman must learn not to take the things her Aquarian partner says or the actions she takes to detach from closeness so personally. She must realize that the most important thing for an Aquarian is the freedom to take an objective view of life. The Aquarian woman must learn more respect for her Cancer partner's feelings and sensitivity, and her need to nurture and support. The Aquarian must realize that this emotionality represents another side of life with which she needs to come to terms.

Once these two women accept each other's differences, they will find that they enrich each other's personalities. The Cancer woman will be able to approach life more objectively and see things from a broader perspective, and the Aquarian woman can be helped to get more in touch with her inner personal feelings and to become more balanced emotionally.

Sexually, these two women may have to work to attain compatibility. The Cancer woman is very warm and caring in her approach to love, and the Aquarian woman is more reserved and needs a lot of verbal interaction, as mental rapport is more important to her than the physical expression of love. The Aquarian needs to learn to express the feelings she may feel very intensely, but tends to keep under control.

Cancer Loving Cancer

The Cancer/Cancer combination is generally a very strong and loving match. Cancer is a watery sign and is concerned with a deeply emotional, sentimental and intuitive approach to life. Both these women require a lot of love, tenderness, and affection in relationships to be happy. Each woman will get all the affection and emotional support she ever desired from her partner. Cancer in many ways embodies the archetype of the Mother Goddess -- the source and sustainer of all life. The Cancer woman needs to both give and receive emotional nourishment. These two women will want to nurture and be nurtured by each other. They will probably form a deep bond and be inclined to spend a lot of time in retreat from the world together in the warm nest of their home. If one woman is depressed, the other woman will feel it as if it were her own depression, and be filled with empathy.

Although the bond formed between these women is so strong that their relationship is usually a lasting one, there can still be some difficulties. One is related to what is most positive about the relationship: their emotional closeness. The emotional tie that can develop between these two women can be so tight that it becomes stifling. These two can become almost symbiotically close, so dependent on one another that they lose a healthy sense of their own autonomy as individuals. Not only do they feel each other's joys and sorrows, but also each other's angers and irritations. Because the relationship is so close, little irritations can become magnified out of proportion.

Many Cancer people, in reaction against their own emotional vulnerability and neediness, can also fluctuate between clutching at intimacy and then pushing it away. When both Cancer women are doing this, it can become very confusing, and at times it may appear that the two women are walking on eggs around each other's sensitivities. The slightest remark can be misinterpreted. Although this scenario sounds bad, the underlying warmth and sympathy between them is strong enough to motivate them to overcome these problems. Sexually, they should have a very compatible relationship as both are deeply emotional, empathetic, and passionately responsive.

Cancer Loving Virgo

The Cancer/Virgo combination can be a very productive one. Watery Cancer gives emotional nourishment to her partner, and earthy Virgo gives her partner solid support and grounding. Both women in different ways are concerned with the process of caring and nurturing. Cancer cares for others with emotional tenderness and empathy. Virgo caring is given with conscientious regard for being of service and stems from her desire to be useful. Together these two women will establish a relationship based on care nad consideration for each other's needs.

Each of these women will be supersensitive to the needs of the other. At times, these two can be almost too solicitous of each other and may tend to suppress valid anger when this arises. Each woman is acutely tuned in to the other, sometimes to the point that it may be a problem. The Virgo may have a tendency to be picky in little things; the Cancer will note the slightest criticism and feel rejected. The Virgo woman is also acutely aware of the Cancer's emotional demands, but if she finds them too demanding she may not express resentment because of guilt. Therefore, a lot may be going on beneath the surface between these two that may not always be healthy.

Except for these difficulties, however, things usually go well with these two women. The Cancer woman will appreciate the practical focus her Virgo partner gives her, and the Virgo woman will enjoy the tenderness and affection that the Cancer woman gives her, expecially in the home. They would also make excellent business partners. Virgo is shrewd and practical, and Cancer has an instinctive sense of what the public wants. Together, these two would give conscientious attention to any task they undertook. Sexually, these two women should be very compatible, although the Virgo woman will need to overcome some reserve in order to respond to her partner's emotional needs.

Cancer Loving Capricorn

The Cancer and Capricorn combination is basically a very strong and positive one. Cancer and Capricorn are opposite signs in the zodiac, and as polar opposites they can complement each other or conflict. Cancer, a water sign, brings warmth and sentimentality to a relationship, and Capricorn, an earth sign, brings grounding and dependability. These two women can supply what each other lacks. The Cancer woman can give her Capricorn partner the emotional nurturing which the Capricorn tends to deny herself, and the Capricorn woman can offer her Cancer partner the solid security and dependability she needs.

Both Cancer and Capricorn are concerned with security, but while Cancer needs a sense of emotional security and roots, Capricorn needs the security of a solid foundation as well as the security of achievement in her work. These two women will be able to understand the need to give security to each other, and their relationship will be characterized by a sense of enduring continuity. Generally, the Cancer woman will supply emotional nurturing focused in the home, while the Capricorn woman provides security through her achievement in the world.

When problems arise between the two women they stem from the definition of security. The Cancer woman needs a lot of emotional security, and the Capricorn woman tends to have a facade of strength and self-sufficiency even though she may feel very vulnerable. The Capricorn woman is often very reserved in expressing affection, and the Cancer woman will tend to interpret this as meaning that her partner lacks emotional warmth. The Capricorn woman may have a hard time dealing with the Cancer's neediness and oversensitivity, as Capricorn believes very strongly in standing on your own two feet. The Cancer woman will need to develop more self-reliance, but the Capricorn woman will need to learn to express affection more freely.

In spite of these difficulties, these two women have much to offer each other and their basic personalities blend well. They will feel secure with each other and know that they can count on each other. Together they will create a warm and comfortable home. For both of them the sense of dependability is more important than anything else and they can express love best when they feel secure.

Sexually, their natures and needs are very compatible, especially since they are both able to be more uninhibited and intimate when they can trust their partner.

Cancer Loving Leo

The Cancer/Leo combination brings together two very different women, yet they have certain things in common that help their relationship. Watery Cancer is deeply emotional and sensitive; fiery Leo is a strong, independent individual, who hates to feel emotionally dependent on another. The Cancer woman needs continual reassurance and emotional support; the Leo woman needs to be in control. Although these two women are different, their differences can be complementary: the Leo woman is proud but she also craves. At the same time the Leo woman's strength and confidence can be very reassuring to her sensitive Cancer partner. Both women have powerful emotions and need to give them full and often dramatic expression. Each will appreciate the other's need for emotional release and encourage the warmth the other projects.

Actually, emotional release is a key to all that is good and bad in this relationship. Both Cancer and Leo experience their identity through the release of personal emotions. Their relationship might seem to an outsider to be a stormy and volatile one, and in many cases that impression is true, but often these displays are merely pyrotechnics, ignited by a relationship filled with warmth and color. The main thing is that each of these women will get a lot of attention in this relationship, which is what each of them really needs.

Of course there are times that these emotions can cause real problems. The Cancer woman is easily hurt, and her Leo partner may tend to high-handedly brush aside these feelings. And if the Cancer woman tries to make the Leo woman feel guilty for these hurts, the Leo will resent it. When the Leo woman does get angry, the power of her fury can be frightening to the sensitive Cancer woman. The Leo woman also likes to dominate and control situations. Her Cancer partner is gentle and sensitive, but she is very prickly about her individual rights and will rebel against being bossed around. But all things considered, these two women should be able to work out these problems because their emotional bond is so strong. Sexually, these two women should be very compatible, as both approach love with passionate emotion.

Cancer Loving Sagittarius

The Cancer and Sagittarius combination brings together two very different people. It is possible for these two women to create a harmonious relationship, but quite a bit of work will be involved. Cancer, a water sign, needs emotional security above all else, and Sagittarius, a fire sign, must have complete independence and freedom. The Cancer woman approaches life through emotional rapport, the Sagittarian woman through the expansion of her mind. Obviously, there is a lot of potential for misunderstanding between these two.

The Cancer woman tends to be centered in her home and the Sagittarian woman is restless and always on the go. The Cancer woman may feel that her Sagittarius partner doesn't really care about her because the Cancer woman assoiciates caring with being together. The Sagittarian woman feels that she can be free to do things alone and still love her partner, and may feel at times hemmed in by the Cancer's emotional demands. The Cancer woman may also be deeply hurt by the outbursts of the Sagittarian's temper, and needs to learn that the anger is usually over as soon as the Sagittarian lets it out. The Cancer woman may be hurt for days while the Sagittarian woman has forgotten all about it.

Although these two women have difficulties together, with compromise they should be able to overcome them. The Cancer woman needs to learn to be more independent and demand less emotionally of her Sagittarian partner, and the Sagittarian woman needs to learn to be more empathetic of the feelings of her Cancer partner. The Cancer woman will broaden her horizons through her relationship with the Sagittarian; the Sagittarian woman will learn more about emotional intimacy through her Cancer partner.

Sexually, these two women will have to work to achieve some compatibility, as the Cancer needs so much emotional support and the Sagittarian needs so much independence. With Sagittarius the emphasis is more on the passionate, physical level, while the Cancer needs touching, tenderness, and intimacy. Sagittarius can learn to develop and appreciate this experience of deeper feelings and intimacy with a Cancer woman.

Cancer Loving Pisces

The Cancer/Pisces combination is generally very harmonious. Both are water signs, and are highly empathetic and emotionally sensitive. Each woman should be able to easily tune into the others feelings. Cancer and Pisces are inclined to pick up psychic impressions very readily and are therefore able to sense what the other is experiencing. Cancer requires a lot of emotional stability. Pisces can sense the continuity between herself and another person to the point where, at times, it is hard to distinguish her own identity. If anything, these two women can be almost too emotionally intertwined with each other.

This relationship can be a very strong one but some problems can arise due to subtle differences in the way these two women approach life. The Pisces woman tends to find her identity through everything she is involved with, and sees many facets of herself in all other people. The Cancer woman may find this nebulous quality in her Piscean partner disorienting, as she needs somthing more definitive in order to feel secure. The Pisces woman, on the other hand, is not inclined to make any hard definitions. She may find her Cancerian partner too demanding in her requirement of dependability. The Cancer woman may want to know where the Pisces woman stands in the relationship, but the Pisces woman often cannot give a clear picture. This can make the Cancer woman feel insecure. The Cancer woman needs more to grasp on to, and the Pisces is more elusive and vague in her direction.

The Pisces woman may find her Cancer partner's need for stability difficult. She may feel that the Cancer woman wants her to fulfill some kind of expectation that she can't meet; she tends to feel that the Cancer woman should accept the relationship as it is and not expect anything more. The Pisces approach to life is so fluid and adaptable that she resists a rigid mold.

In spite of these differences, they have much in common. Each woman can be very nurturing of the other, and both are able to express warm affection and intimacy. They will both want to spend a lot of time together in the home they share. Neither one requires a lot of outside stimulation in order to feel satisfied.

Sexually, these two women should be very compatible because both approach life with intimacy and warmth. They are very sensous and openly expressive.

Cancer Loving Gemini

The Gemini/Cancer combination brings together two very different women, but often works out surprisingly well. Gemini, an air sign, loves the freedom to shift with each changing breeze, forever seeking new ideas, new perceptions, new horizons. Cancer, a water sign, always seeks the emotional security that stems from deep rootedness in life. Restless Gemini craves freedom and is rootless; Cancer needs to build a home base, a source of emotional as well as physical nourishment. How can these two women meet half way?

Signs immediately adjacent to each other in the zodiac--such as Gemini and Cancer-- often share some common characteristics. Although the Gemini woman tends to take a detached standpoint and the Cancer woman an emotional one, they share a concern with their immediate gut-level perceptions. Both tend to relate all their experience to how it feels to them, as opposed to some abstract comprehensive system. This subjective focus is the key to their surprising rapport. In a sense, the Gemini woman is seeking a rooted relatedness to life as she processes all her thought and perceptions about the world around her. The Cancer woman can often help her find the deeper emotional nourishment that the Gemini really needs to complete herself. At the same time, the Gemini can offer her Cancer partner a cooler, more detached perspective, one that can help clarify intense Cancerian emotions. Cancer's emotionality is sometimes excessive; her Gemini partner can help her use her intellect to balance this tendency.

For this reason it is possible for these two women to have a successful relationship. The Cancer woman loves to spend a lot of time with her lover; the Gemini loves to have another to act as her mirror. Of course, their differences can make for problems. The Cancer woman is strongly focused in her home; the Gemini woman craves a lot of excitement outside the home. The Cancer woman tends to want a few close friends (including her partner); the Gemini loves to meet new people, and may get bored with the companionship of just a few people. The Cancer woman needs a lot of emotional support and solicitous attention, and her Gemini partner may have trouble empathizing with her. But with a little work these two can overcome these problems. Sexually, these two women are not ideally matched. The Cancer woman needs the expression of much more emotional tenderness than the Gemini is prone to give. If the Cancer woman can learn to talk about her emotional needs with her Gemini partner, their sexual relationship can improve.

Cancer Loving Taurus

The Taurus/Cancer combination can be an ideal one in many ways. The earthy Taurus will feel supported and nourished by the watery Cancer. The Cancer woman will in turn feel stabilized and secure with the dependable Taurus woman. Security is a prime concern with these signs. Both women will value the security of a comfortable home, good food, and money in the bank, but also the security of a devoted and enduring relationship and a dependable, faithful partner. While not the most passionate relationship, the love between a Taurus woman and her Cancer partner has deep roots and grows and strengthens through the years. Both women, in their different ways, are strong individuals, but the peace and harmony of their life as a couple will tend to override everything else. They will encourage each other's strengths as autonomous people, but in the final analysis the relationship will take precedence over all else.

The Taurus/Cancer match has a lot going for it, but there are some pitfalls to be aware of. Both women are deeply emotional, but their emotional styles can be very different. The Taurus woman is the epitome of steadiness and self-control, and tends to bottle up strong emotions which, if not given an outlet, can erupt in overwhelming fury. The Cancer woman's emotions fluctuate from day to day and hour to hour; one day she's exuberant, the next depressed. She also tends to express feeling more freely than her Taurus partner, she is nurturing (sometimes to the point of being smothering), and she also requires a lot of attention and nurturing herself. The Taurus woman is much more self-contained and may be bewildered and frustrated by the swings of her Cancer partner's moods. And the Cancer woman may feel hurt sometimes by what looks like indifference or even gruff withdrawal from her Taurus partner when she's feeling most vulnerable.

Another possible problem has to do with the fact that these women are both strong individuals, and while both need devoted attention, neither can stand feeling controlled by another. When the Taurus makes up her mind about something whe will be like a rock that will not budge; the Cancer woman will try to influence her but to no avail. And if the Taurus woman tries to dominate her Cancer partner, emotional storms will be the result. In spite of these difficulties, however, there is so much ground for compatibility between these two women that such problems should be fairly easily resolved. Sexually, these two women should be very compatible, as each has a strongly sensuous nature and the capacity to relate deeply on the emotional level.

Cancer Loving Aries

The Aries/Cancer combination has very strong positive and negative aspects to it. Aries energy is strong and assertive, while Cancer is receptive and sensitive. Together one can complement the other, as Cancer receives and nourishes the forward-moving, fiery energy of Aries. The soft and gentle Cancer woman feels energized by her Aries partner. And the forceful Aries (who nevertheless may feel insecure beneath her outer bravado) finds soothing warmth with her sympathetic Cancer partner. Aries can bring excitement into the Cancer's life, while Cancer can give Aries a sense of roots.

This relationship can bring complementary energies together, or it can bring the clash of two very different personalities. For an Aries woman, her Cancer partner's motherly concern can be comforting, but at times it can also be smothering to the Aries' need for independence and freedom. For the Cancer woman, her Aries partner brings a lot of zest and excitement to her life, it's true- but the Aries temperament can also be very abrupt and abrasive. Without meaning to, the Aries woman can impulsively say something that will wound her sensitive Cancer partner's feelings. The Aries will then be bewildered when the other woman retreats in hurt silence. Above all, this is a hightly emotional relationship, often characterized by volatile ups and downs. This can be positive, especially, because both women tend to react to life on a gut level and are very aware of each other instinctively. It is a very changeable relationship, also. One moment the two women will be loving and tender, and the next the Aries woman will go storming out the door, leaving the Cancer woman in tears.

As these two women grow to understand each other more and more, they will find ways of circumventing such unfortunate scenes. Both will need to modify their behavior to some extent and then a very happy relationship will be possible. The Aries woman must learn to be more aware of how sensitive her Cancer partner is, and be more solicitous of her feelings. The Cancer woman must learn to be a little tougher, and then not take everything their Aries partner says so seriously. Sexually, these two can have a very satisfying relationship. Cancer loves the Aries passion, and Aries loves the Cancer's emotional responsiveness. Aries may need to develop more tenderness in the way she expresses love, otherwise Cancer may feel she isn't loved.

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